Make no mistake about it: the holidays are a great time to participate in work-related events where opportunities to mingle with colleagues abound. This can be the perfect time to have meaningful conversations without a work-related agenda, and getting to know your colleagues in a more informal setting definitely can lead to stronger working relationships.
While being informal has its advantages, such as enjoying being part of a team, sharing stories and celebrating the season, it also has some downsides that can derail your career. Without putting a damper on the holiday mood, here are some dos and don’ts to keep in mind when mingling at work-related events.
Don’t let your guard down. Career mishaps often happen when you begin talking without being aware of your audience. Throwing off your formal work personality and letting your relaxed way of interacting take over can be a mistake. The truth is you still are at work — just in a different capacity. While having fun and celebrating is the goal, you need to maintain the same good taste and sensitivity you would during the work day.
Balance talking and listening. Share the conversation by asking good open-ended questions that generate responses. Doing all the talking and not inviting others to join in can create an awkward situation. “Don’t use the company dinner as the time to be the comedienne of the party. Your Tina Fey routine may be hysterical but your coworkers may be rolling their eyes,” says Chris Jahnke, author of “The Well-Spoken Woman.”
Don’t drink excessively. Mixing alcohol with informal conversations can create the perfect storm. Suddenly you’re letting off steam and talking about how you really feel about a company policy or your new boss. Drinking excessively tends to impair your judgment. There are countless stories about employees flirting with colleagues’ spouses or making inappropriate comments. You don’t want to be remembered for becoming intoxicated at an office event.
Dress appropriately. Dressing for festive events adds to the occasion, but if you go overboard, you will leave an impression with your employer that will last throughout the year. Tara Luizzi, a fashion industry expert, says you can incorporate some holiday sparkle in a professional way by knowing the dress code ahead of time. “Don’t wear clothes that are too low-cut, too short or too tight all at the same time,” Luizzi said.
Make every effort to attend the office party. Not showing up without a good reason can send the message you aren’t committed to the company. Parties are opportunities for good networking and team-building. Even if you aren’t comfortable in social settings, attending these events is part of being a good corporate citizen.
Keep these things in mind as you prepare for and attend work-related holiday events while continuing to make a positive impression.
